Hi guys! Welcome back! I know it’s been a while, and I always vow to post more often, but life has been a little crazy. If you’re new, you should know, my blogs are usually not about fashion or beauty but where we practice a little “real talk”. If you haven’t noticed, I’ve added a new addition to my world, and while she’s my greatest earthly joy, I’ve had to learn a lot about how to balance it all. Truthfully, there were a few weeks where I didn’t do a very good job. Whether it’s a new baby, new job, new marriage, new chapter of your life, maybe you can relate!
So, my first piece of advice is…..don’t be afraid to take the “L”. Honestly, I had no idea what this meant until my employees told me. So, if you need an old person dictionary, it means take a loss. I’ve never truly enjoyed cooking, and I did it strictly out of obligation. Let’s be honest….omg, it’s sooooo much work. Going to the store, coming up with a recipe, chopping, mixing, cooking, clean up. For all of you that feel me….shoutout Urban Cookhouse Family Meal. Healthy and, praise the Lord, no dirty kitchen! If you don’t feel me and just loooove to cook, DM me. I’ll give you my address. I’m getting to my point, I promise. When my little was born, people did what we do in the South. They brought food. They came from near and far and brought food. I don’t think I picked up a pan until she was two months old…not kidding. I was navigating these new waters we call motherhood, and it was wonderful to have the stress of the one thing I don’t enjoy, off my plate. I tried to pick it back up again here and there, but about a month ago, after I started to feel really busy at work again, a lightbulb went off. I went to my husband and very matter of factly said, “ I’ve decided I’m not going to cook anymore. I don’t enjoy it, it’s time consuming, and there are other ways to feed you.” He laughed out loud and simply said, “Okay.”, and that was that! I think he appreciated my honesty. Now, to some of you this may sound terrible, but look, no one is starving. Fortunately, he’s a great cook so he took that weight from me, and it feels great! For you, it may not be cooking, but whatever that small thing is that puts more stress on you than it’s worth, find a way to pass the ball! In a world where we women constantly say “yes”, sometimes you’ve just got to say a very refreshing “no”. You can do it!
This is my second and most important piece of advice….if you’re spiritual and spend time everyday in devotion, worship, or whatever it is, don’t give that up. You have to have that to be your best self. For a while, it was tough to find time, and I used the busyness of motherhood as an excuse. I was trying to juggle my new babe, my wifely duties, my business, a social life, and I wasn’t doing a very good job. I was feeling super overwhelmed with it all when I realized the problem. I wasn’t making time for the MOST important thing. But when would I have time?? If you haven’t experienced motherhood yet, no matter how good and happy your baby, it’s constant. So when could I find time to experience the Utopia of quiet time to myself?? I would have to give up the one thing every new mother covets….sleep. So I did it. I set my alarm for a mere 30 minutes early. You know what? It’s totally worth it. It makes me a better wife, mother, business owner and friend. I feel more centered, at peace, and like I can handle this! So, you can do it girl…find the time! I promise it will pay off.
P.S. Last time I wrote a post like this, I LOVED hearing all of your stories. So, DM me if you can relate! Love you guys, and as always….#staygolden.